Bridal Shows – Do They Help The Bride?

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There are numerous Bridal Shows going on at this time of year.  We’re going into the fall and with the holidays coming up many women will become engaged.  They will usually find inspiration in the wedding magazines you find at the check out in your local grocery stores and of course there are numerous on line options.  But what about Bridal Shows? Do they help the bride and family? Or do they complicate the planning process?

As a Wedding Planner I’ve had the pleasure of participating in many bridal shows. The purpose of wedding vendors participation is meet new potential clients and to find a way to help these brides and their families in the planning process.  So you register for your local bridal show and attend on the big day.  But there’s so many vendors!  What’s a bride to do?

Here’s a few tips to help you navigate your local bridal show:

  • Take everything in.  There are numerous vendors to stop and look at and decide if their business or product is what you need on your big day;
  • Ask questions.  What does the vendor offer? Is it a necessity for your big day? and if the answer is yes, what is the expense associated with their services or product;
  • Gorgeous flowers and cake samples will be offered. Take in the inspiration you see.  If you find something you’ve fallen in love with, is it something which will fit in your budget?
  • You’ll find the newest trends at bridal shows.  That’s exciting because now you’re on the cutting edge of what’s new and trending.  A new trend for 2015 is using a Caricature Artist to draw pictures of your guests.  How much fun is that and you can also use this as your favor.  It serves a dual purpose, it’s interactive and it gives your guests a keepsake to take home with them.  It’s a win, win!
  • Collect information from the vendors. You’ll have time to sort through everything when you get home and have the time to review any offers, company info and to determine who, if anyone, you’d like to work with and set up a consultation appointment with.

When you’re at a bridal show you’ll see alot going on around you.  Take your time working around the room and talk to vendors.  Find out if they’re a right match for your wedding and your ideas.  A bridal show can give you so much information and a starting platform to work from in planning your big day.

One of our local upcoming bridal shows is the CNY Bridal Ball, on October 12, 2014 and can be found at the Best Western on Carrier Circle, East Syracuse, New York.  You will find free admission and free parking.  It will run from 12:00 to 4:00 p.m. We look forward to see everyone there!    12, 2014  /

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer, Fairy Tale Weddings and Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

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The Endless Circle of Love

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You received an engagement ring from your fiance’ but have you wondered what it means?  Engagement rings and wedding bands represent many things in many cultures.  The most common meaning is Love, Commitment, Fidelity, Honour and Eternity.  After all it is an endless metal band around your finger.

They say the wedding ring dates back to Egyptian hieroglyphics on the walls of Egyptian tombs, which were translated by archaeologists.  2000 years ago, Asian puzzle rings were commonly used as wedding bands. It’s said that sheiks and sultans required each of their wives to wear one as a pledge of fidelity while he was away.

Ancient Egyptians and Romans believed that the ring finger of the left hand follows the vein of love, which is connected to the heart.  Isn’t it amazing that a single band of metal can symbolize eternal love having no beginning nor an end.

We all know your engagement ring will typically be found on your left ring finger (next to your pinky).  But how will you wear them once you’re married?  Traditionally, your wedding band will be placed on your ring finger first and then your engagement ring.  The symbolism of this being your wedding band is the closest to your heart and a never ending circle of love.

While engagement rings and diamonds are beautiful and amazingly stunning, especially paired with a matching wedding band, the love that you have for one another is never ending and a ring is a symbol of that love.

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer –  Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

Unexpected Wedding Expenses

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It’s no secret that having a wedding can be expensive.  You have your dress, the venue, the florist, the dj or a band and your wedding planner.  But what about those unexpected cost?  Here’s the break down on the national average costs for a wedding:

Food service $4,745
Event location $3,621
Full-service wedding planner $3,232
Bar service $2,442
Event rentals $1,719
Photographer $1,663
Live band $1,637
Wedding dress $1,212
Wedding bands $1,182
Videographer $1,017

The Knot reports the average couple will spend $29,858 for their wedding.  And the expense of a wedding can certainly be much higher than noted above, depending on where you may live. Although the above figures may or may not be reflective of the area you reside in, the venue and food/alcohol will certainly be the most expensive part of your budget.  If you’re looking to have top shelf alcohol or you want the “best of the best” food, it will cost you.  So it’s very important to determine who and how you are going to pay for your wedding.  Will you pay for it yourself or will you have contributions from your family?  Next, set yourself a budget.  This should help you to stay on track.  If you can manage the expense of a wedding planner, you’ll fin that he or she will be worth it.  Most planners will find creative ways to stretch your budget so you don’t deplete immediately and has experience and relationships with local vendors.

So establish your budget.  Then prioritize what’s most important to you.  Spending a little extra on your photographer for fabulous photos may be more important to you then overly dramatic centerpieces. Most vendors will work within your budget so have an open conversation about what you’d like and what your budget allows for.

The next thing is to determine how many guests you’re inviting.  A few extra guests will cause unexpected costs to your bottom line. So have an honest conversation about who should truly be invite.  Do you really need to invite your 3rd and 4th cousins and don’t forget “plus ones”, as they add up and will ultimately affect your bottom line.

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

contributions by CNBC and The Knot

 

5 Tips To Being A Fabulous Maid of Honor

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Your best friend or sister is getting married and you were asked to be the Maid of Honor. You may be asking yourself what does that mean? That means you’re someone very special to the bride and she’s honored you with this special position. But what do you do?  Here’s my five top tips on being a Fabulous Maid of Honor:

1) Offer to do “it”, again and again and again.  Whether your bride is looking for a custom cake or topper, a florist for those special ordered flowers or looking for that perfect favor for her guests, help her from the start and run with it.  You don’t want the bride worrying about anything.  You need to be one step ahead of her and get things done.

2) Don’t be afraid to delegate the numerous things that will go on.  Have grandma, her godmother or a favorite family member help with the details of her bridal shower.  And don’t be afraid to let others share in the expense of these gatherings and items.  You certainly aren’t independently wealthy and everyone should contribute a little something toward the big day, whether it’s grandma, her godmother or favorite family members.

3) Say nice things about the groom or partner.  She is currently on cloud nine and is so happy. Tell her what a great choice she’s made and let her smile.  After all, you’re the Maid of Honor and your opinion counts.

4) ….and if you don’t care for the groom…..don’t share it. Hopefully before things have gotten so far as you being the Maid of Honor, you’ve shared your concerns.  The bride knows your concerns and doesn’t need to hear it over and over again.  Be supportive, have a listening ear and know when to just let it go.

5) Don’t forget to have some “me” time.  Pamper yourself prior to the wedding and unwind.  This is a job for all practical purposes and  you may not have alot of time for yourself. So make time to go to the salon, have a mani/pedicure or a massage and relax.  On the big day you’ll be busy, but be sure to enjoy yourself….after all you’re the Maid of Honor for a reason.

Happy planning!

Mary Homer-Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

 

Every Wedding Should Have These Things

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Every wedding should always have things that are important to you.  Let’s see if you agree:

1) Be surrounded by the people, family and friends who love you.  They’ve seen you laugh, they’ve seen you cry, they’ve eaten a pint of ice cream with you at two in the morning.  These are the most important people to you and should be with you to celebrate your love for one another.

2) Know your officiant.  Now he doesn’t need to be your best friend or your pastor (but that’s not a bad thing if he/she is) but hopefully have someone who knows you and your spouse to be.  It will make your ceremony personable and special and he/she may give you the best advice about marriage you’ll ever receive.

3) Make your vows your own.  Be personable, be passionate, be from the heart.  You are pledging your life to this person today, so share with him/her your heart felt emotions no matter how mushy, how funny or how much it makes you both laugh.  Laughter after all is the best medicine for almost everything.

4) Have something special that speaks to you in your wedding….whether it’s the design of your wedding cake you created, the “I said yes to the dress” or that special “thank you” favor you picked out for your guests.  Enjoy it, embrace it, and smile.  This is your day!

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer, Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

 

 

Easy Tips for Planning Your Big Day

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These are some easy tips to help you plan your Big Day.  These may be basics but if you don’t have them on your list of things to do, you may end up frustrated and stressed as you plan your wedding day.

1) Determine what is your vision for your day.  Do you want a simple wedding, or something big and bold or maybe you’re looking to achieve an elegant look and feel for your wedding day.  Decide on what you’re anticipating your day to be and you’ll start heading in the right direction to achieve it.

2) Be Realistic about your Budget.  It’s easy to spiral out of a control while you’re planning your wedding, there are so many options, so many choices and yes, those choices can be costly to your bottom line.  Try to set an amount for each category, as this will help you maintain control of your expenses.  Stick with it! I know it’s easy to have an over the top wedding, but if your budget doesn’t allow for it, do your very best with your established budget. Going into debt for your big day may not be how you choose to start your married life, so always write up your budget and work hard to stick to it.

3) Plan your choice venue ahead of time.  A lot of venues book 1 or possibly 2 years ahead of time.  So have a back venue you like, just in case.  Again, we go back to your budget and what those options are within that budget.

4) Bring in a “Day of Coordinator”.  The expense will pay for itself multiple times over. The bride and groom and their families should not have to worry about all the details, the vendors, delivery and set up times and any problems which may arise.  And if they do their job right, you should never know there were any issues.  I like to call this “be a guest at your wedding”.

5) What’s the easiest way to control your budget? Control you guests count.  It’s that simple.  The more guests you invite, the more your wedding day will cost at the bottom line.  It’s simple math.  So if you’re looking for an intimate wedding and reception, keep your guests count down.  If you’re looking for an elegant and over the top event, invite your guests away.  Either way, it’s the best and easiest way to control your budget

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer, Fairy Tale Weddings & Events – http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

Top 5 Edible Wedding Favors for 2014

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The wedding season is upon us as we move through June and into July and August.  If you’re like alot of people, you will be attending at least one wedding this summer.  When you think of wedding favors, you probably think about the typical picture frame, chocolates or a wine stopper.  But rest assured there are new and creative wedding favors for you to choose from.

The newest edible wedding trends for 2014 include:

-Zeppole. Powdered and bagged while still warm just before the end of your reception will make these desserts a crowd pleaser. Guests tend to eat them in their car on their way home.

-Mini donuts. The donuts craze is still a top trend in wedding favors, whether it’s traditional styles or you order custom donuts iced in your wedding colors.  Bakers are always happy to accommodate your color scheme or style.

-Popcorn. Placed in containers or bags on a popcorn display table for guests to take home are available in almost any flavor you can imagine.

-Retro candies. A candy bar filled with colorful candy may feature retro candies that guests remember from their childhoods, like cinnamon candies, Pop Rocks, root beer bottle tops and others.

-Cookie or brownie mixes in mason jars. Mason jars have been a top wedding décor trend, and are now holding as the top wedding favor. You layer the ingredients for an easy ‘pour into the bowl and mix with eggs, oil, etc.’ baking project to make your own baked dessert.

Always remember edible favors never go wrong and are always on trend!

Happy planning!

Mary Homer Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

 

Easter in the Spring Time

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It’s that time of year when the grass turns greener and the flowers are starting to bud and burst through the ground. Spring is upon us and so is Easter this Sunday. Spring has the ability to make old things new again and new things wonderful. Wishing you much sunshine and beautiful colors this Easter Sunday and throughout your Spring! And if you’re planning a Spring wedding, bring in your favorite colors. It’ll be beautiful and memorable!

Happy planning!
Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings and Events
http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

Rustic Weddings Made Easy

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If you like the simple life and a rustic wedding is your style, not to fear.  It’s as easy as A, B, C. First, find your location.  It can be a barn, a family members field or just the back yard at your Grandma’s.  Next, remember to keep it simple.  Rustic style is easy.  Essentially you can use almost anything you have and is in nature.  From long communal wooden tables with colored canning jars and in season flowers like daisies as your centerpieces to as elaborate as hanging a chandelier in a barn.  Always use candles, whether it’s in your canning jars, in groups or on wagon wheel chandeliers.   Next, make sure you have plenty of seating.  Whether you mix and max your chairs for an eclectic look or you match them for a more traditional look, make it fun. You can use ribbon, hay bales(throw a blanket or family quilts over them), burlap in a number of different ways (as chair ties, favor bags or even table runners) and lighting.  Lighting becomes very important, especially once the sun goes down.  So be sure you plan ahead.  Be creative with signage, use old windows frames and glass and don’t forget draping.  Draping can transform any room, even a barn.  Use pieces of cut wood or even barrels in creative and fun ways.  Or bring in older pieces of furniture to give an area that “homey” feel.  The skies the limit with your creativity.

Whether you are simple rustic or elegant rustic, have fun and show your personality.  After all, this is your day and everyone wants to see your personality shine through.  Those little touches will leave lasting memories for years to come.

Happy Planning-Mary

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

 

 

Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue

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We’ve all heard the rhyme for weddings and it’s a tradition right?  “Something old, something new, some borrowed, something blue”.  This rhyme is from the Victorian era.  It represents different symbols for the wedding tradition.

-Something Old: This represents progression.  This would typically be a piece of your grandmothers or mothers jewelry, passed down from one generation to another.  You could wear it or incorporate into your bridal bouquet.  It doesn’t need to be jewelry however, this is the most common “something old”.

-Something New: This represents success in your marriage.  This can be any aspect of your wedding….whether it’s your wedding gown, new jewelry, shoes, or a special hankie to remember the day.  This shows the union between the bride and groom as they start their life together as a couple.

-Something Borrowed: This represents unity with family and friends who surround the bride on her wedding day.  Whether it’s a simple piece of jewelry, a locket, a pair of shoes or even the all important wedding dress, something borrowed is something special.  It can be from your friend(s), your sister, you mother or even your mother-in-law.

-Something Blue: This represents faithfulness and loyalty in years gone by.  We all know a bride who has worn a blue garter.  However it’s easy to incorporate a little blue (or a lot of blue if you so wish) into your wedding in flowers, your nail polish, ribbons on your bouquets, centerpieces, table linens, your dessert/candy bar and even your up lighting.  How fun would it be to have a blue bottom to your shoe, as opposed to a red bottom? Be creative and have fun.

After all, this is a one of kind day and putting your special touches on it will make it even more special and memorable.  Wishing you much joy in your planning!