Home Weddings vs Covid 19

We’ve all been impacted by the current pandemic involving Covid 19. However, remember we will celebrate again! Venues, dress shops, bakeries and all your wedding vendors will reopen. You can’t cancel LOVE! So let’s talk about “Plan B”.

You’ve planned your wedding packed full of fun and personality, down to the very last detail, ensuring your ceremony and reception will be a wonderful experience for your guests. Then everything closed and we had a “stay at home” order for essentially everyone near and far. Now what do you do with all those plans you worked so hard on? Do you postpone our wedding and reschedule? After all, no one plans fore a pandemic.

Consideration now moves to home weddings, especially if you have a back yard that is lush and park like. How do you pivot from a large, lavish celebration to an intimate home wedding?

First, I want you to know that you shouldn’t underestimate what you can do with a home wedding. The sky’s truly the limit. It will still be a great experience for your guests. However, here is where the real work begins if a home wedding is in your future:

  1. Choose a new wedding date, even if it’s not your typical Saturday or Sunday. Midweek wedding dates are becoming popular and may make more sense for you and your guests.
  2. Whether your backyard is large or small, you’ll need to revisit your guests list, as any location needs to be consider for maximum occupancy and comfort. No One envisions having to revisit their guests list; however our current times will likely require you to do so. So your guests list that was originally 100, 200 or even 300+ guests simply won’t be possible in a smaller space. This will be difficult, however remember many guests who were traveling distances or have compromised immune systems may not be able to attend at this point. Who do you want and need at your celebration? Additionally, be sure to check the local guidelines in your area to ensure you are in compliance.
  3. Once you finalize your guests list, you’ll ant to coordinate with your vendors to determine who and what you’ll still need. You may need to revise y our contracts to add or remove services. If you’re working with a wedding planner, he/she will be your liaison with your vendors, handling any changes as needed. Remember your vendors are here to help you through the process, despite any changes.
  4. Even though things may be a bit different now,, things will be okay. This is a celebration about you as a couple and your love for one another. Don’t sweat the small stuff (or the big stuff for that matter). So when you’re overwhelmed, which is to be expect and completely normal, take a deep breath and remember you are not in this along. You have vendors who will be there for you and if you have a wedding planner, he/she will be your rock, your sounding board and full of ideas to re-imagine this exceptional day for your.
  5. Don’t be afraid to add a virtual component to your wedding ceremony, so guests who you couldn’t invite are able to share in your wedding day. Weddings may change a bit now, but people love to be a part of a love story and YOURS is the most important to them.
  6. Self care at this point needs to be a priority. Enjoy a glass of wine with your BFF (even if it’s a Zoom call for now), share your concerns with your planner, family or friends so you have it off your chest (you’ll be surprised how much better you’ll feel) or exercise (whether gyms are open or not at this point). Taking care of YOU is a priority.
  7. Lastly, don’t forget to relax and ENJOY your wedding day! Your wedding comes and goes in 4-6 hours but your love for one another will last a life time.

Happy planning during these changing times!

Mary Homer

Fairy Tale Weddings by Mary

http://www.fairytaleweddingsbymary.com

Wedding Colors We’re Crushing

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Do I REALLY Need A Professional?

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This weekend was a beautiful weekend as we move into Fall.  My granddaughter Devynn and I decided we would make some cake pops.  Anyone who knows Devynn and I know we love to bake!  Whether it’s the family Christmas Cookies we make every year or just a fabulous pan of brownies, baking is in our blood.  We even kid we’re going to open a bakery together some day.  So this weekend we decided to make cake pops and yes we now know cake pops are definitely not “our thing”.  We made the pops too big, then too small, burned some of the chocolate and had such a hard time trying to cover the pops with chocolate, let alone the ones that fell down the sticks because they were too heavy.  We decided we’d leave the cake pops to the Professional Bakers.  Buddy Valastro (Cake Boss) where are you when we needed you?

When you’re planning your wedding, you always think, “I can do that” or “I don’t need to hire someone to do that”.  Not everyone has the eye of a photographer or a florist who designs gorgeous floral arrangements.  Whether it’s your centerpieces, your wedding dress or your invitations you really should consider a Professional.

A Professional’s expertise is priceless!  You’re not only hiring them for your wedding, you’re hiring their expertise, their experience and their creativity.

If you know a Professional or you have a family member or friend who is a Professional in their field, by all means talk to them.  Their input and recommendations as experts in their field will help guide you in your decisions as to who to hire.  Or your friend may be taking photography classes at your local college, but does he have the eye and ideas of a Professional Photographer?  You can purchase your flowers from your local grocery store, but a Professional Florist can design and bring your vision to life, even on a budget.

Keep an open mind when you speaking with Professionals. Be honest and share with them what you’re looking for and your expectations.  Not every Professional will be a good fit, so if you don’t find a good match in one field, reach out to someone who is more your style.

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

Wedding Cake Trends

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Wedding cakes have been around for as long as most people can remember.  Over the past several years cupcake towers have had quite a run instead of cakes.  But the trend is changing and couples are leaning toward wedding cakes again.  This is very evident if you follow Pinterest, with loads of inspiration, colors and ideas.

So what are the current trends in wedding cakes?  Here are a few for you to consider:

  1. Metallic cakes are very popular for an evening or elegant affair.  It can range any where from gold and silver to bronze, copper or pewter.
  2. Ruffled cakes you will see everywhere on Pinterest. It’s fun, romantic and unexpected.  This style cake can be used in every style wedding or celebration.
  3. Ombre’ cakes are currently on trend.  Regardless of your color scheme, there’s an ombre’ cake for you.  This style cake is fun and adventurous.
  4. Naked cakes have made a splash this year.  This is a basic cake without any exterior frosting, which will work perfectly in a rustic style wedding.  Now you may think because the cake is naked, that it won’t taste very good.  You would be wrong.  Although there is no frosting on the exterior of this case, it certainly can pack a punch with flavor.  Depending on your style, this may be the perfect fit for you.

Regardless of your style, theme or color scheme, your cake is an expression of who you are as a couple.  So be adventurous and daring.  Is it a little nontraditional at times, certainly, but if it reflects who you are, it will be perfect!

Happy Planning!

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Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

The Cool Air of Fall

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Fall is in the air.  Today and the last couple of days have been a bit cooler than normal for this time of year.  But it does allow us to prepare for the cooler weather that fall brings.  If you’re planning a fall wedding or event, the cooler weather certainly plays a factor in your guests needs.

A Fall wedding can certainly be held outdoors.  But to do so, you do need to plan ahead to ensure your guests are well taken care of. Planning your celebration in a beautiful white tent will cause there to be a need to be sure you have enough lighting, as we all know it will start to get darker out sooner. The use of several chandeliers, string lighting around the perimeter and uplighting will help set the mood.  Don’t forget about candles….whether they are simple votive candles or substantial pillars.  All of this will be factored in the aviance you are building in the tent.

As Fall comes upon us, it becomes cooler.  So don’t forget you will likely need a few portable heaters to ensure your guests are comfortable.  Although dancing will certainly keep you warm on a cool evening, not everyone care to dance.

If you’re planning your celebration at a traditional venue, why not bring in some aspects of Fall to your event?  Fall colors include forest greens, oranges and browns. Play with these colors to develop a one of a kind and inviting room.  Crisp apples and the color are is a fun way to bring in a punch of color.  Use apples or oranges in your centerpieces, by filling your vessel full of them and having a beautiful fall centerpiece of florals on top allowing you to have a beautiful centerpiece on your tables. Cranberries are another fun way to bring in the fall feel.  Fill your clear vessel full of cranberries and use branches with crystals to elevate your fall theme.  The hanging strands of crystals will add a hint of grandeur to your room.  By adding colorful leaves, greens or branches you bring in a custom rustic feel to your venue.

You can find inspiration for a rustic or fall decor for your event.  Look around you, inspiration is everywhere this time of year!

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer, Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

Sweets For My Sweet

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Have you ever been at a fabulous event and come across an over the top Dessert Table?  Have you wondered how they do it?  Dessert tables are pretty easy for even the most challenged of us. However to put together a great dessert table you need a plan.  So here’s a few tips for you to follow.

  • Plan ahead.  If you plan ahead things will come together seamlessly.
  • Choose a color or theme.  This will help you decide on the many choices you will have and give you a cohesive look.
  • Bake and freeze your goodies ahead of time.  The last thing you want to think about on your wedding day or for any celebration is worrying about baking.
  • Mix in store bought bake goods.  Whether you purchase them from your local bakery or the grocery store, they will look wonderful mixed in together.
  • Think outside the box.  Use what you already have.  Don’t be afraid to attach a beautiful plate to a substantial candle stick; use your white vessels (plates, bowls, platters and trays) they’ll look uniformed; experiment with different shapes and sizes.
  • Have a design plan as this will give you a custom look and don’t be afraid to dress it up.
  • Shop your closet and use what you already have.  Think about fabrics (scarves, runners, linens, pretty paper, etc) to every day vases in your cupboards, as you’re building a scene for everyone to “ouhhh” and “ahhh” over.
  • Use different heights to create dimension and visual interest.

By following these simple tips, you’ll find you’re able to create a memorable sweets table everyone will be talking about for some time to come. Be creative, be fearless and have fun!

Happy Planning

Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings & Events – http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

contributions from The Knot and Amy Atlas, author of “Sweet Designs”

 

The Power of Color

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I’ve had the pleasure of planning a large number of weddings now and a question I always like to ask my clients is “What are your wedding colors?” Some brides know immediately, after all they’ve dreamed of this big day for a very long time.  Others aren’t quite sure.  Let me say this, there are no rules.  Your wedding is the perfect opportunity to paint a picture for your family and friends as you move into marriage and you become a married couple.  I’ve listed some suggestions to help guide you through this process.

Don’t be afraid of rich colors like burgundy, royal blue or even plum, bring it in everywhere.

Stay away from Stark White as it doesn’t give you any dimension.  Try using soft ivories and off whites.  It will soften your look and will look better on film or in pictures.  It will also give you the base to layer in your favorite colors.

There are three types of color families you should become familiar with:

-Full Color, which are primary and secondary colors with strong vivid hues.  They include red, blue, margenta pink, purple, green and yellow.

-Medium shades of colors, which aren’t so intense, are pink, lavender, peach and light yellow.

-Soft hues include lighter tones of ivory, white and luscious yellow.

When you mix these different color families, you obtain contrast and a three dimensional look, especially in your flowers. Having a conversation with your florist is so important when it comes to your color scheme. Your florist will be able to bring that pop of color you’re looking for out in your centerpieces or using softer tone flowers make your centerpieces soft and romantic.

What ever color choices you make, it should reflect you and your soon to be bride or groom.  If you’re outgoing and full of energy, bursting at the seams, lots of color would certainly be in order.  Are you more traditional and subtle, then softer tones will bring the feel of romance and love to your color selections.

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings and Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

The Endless Circle of Love

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You received an engagement ring from your fiance’ but have you wondered what it means?  Engagement rings and wedding bands represent many things in many cultures.  The most common meaning is Love, Commitment, Fidelity, Honour and Eternity.  After all it is an endless metal band around your finger.

They say the wedding ring dates back to Egyptian hieroglyphics on the walls of Egyptian tombs, which were translated by archaeologists.  2000 years ago, Asian puzzle rings were commonly used as wedding bands. It’s said that sheiks and sultans required each of their wives to wear one as a pledge of fidelity while he was away.

Ancient Egyptians and Romans believed that the ring finger of the left hand follows the vein of love, which is connected to the heart.  Isn’t it amazing that a single band of metal can symbolize eternal love having no beginning nor an end.

We all know your engagement ring will typically be found on your left ring finger (next to your pinky).  But how will you wear them once you’re married?  Traditionally, your wedding band will be placed on your ring finger first and then your engagement ring.  The symbolism of this being your wedding band is the closest to your heart and a never ending circle of love.

While engagement rings and diamonds are beautiful and amazingly stunning, especially paired with a matching wedding band, the love that you have for one another is never ending and a ring is a symbol of that love.

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer –  Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

Unexpected Wedding Expenses

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It’s no secret that having a wedding can be expensive.  You have your dress, the venue, the florist, the dj or a band and your wedding planner.  But what about those unexpected cost?  Here’s the break down on the national average costs for a wedding:

Food service $4,745
Event location $3,621
Full-service wedding planner $3,232
Bar service $2,442
Event rentals $1,719
Photographer $1,663
Live band $1,637
Wedding dress $1,212
Wedding bands $1,182
Videographer $1,017

The Knot reports the average couple will spend $29,858 for their wedding.  And the expense of a wedding can certainly be much higher than noted above, depending on where you may live. Although the above figures may or may not be reflective of the area you reside in, the venue and food/alcohol will certainly be the most expensive part of your budget.  If you’re looking to have top shelf alcohol or you want the “best of the best” food, it will cost you.  So it’s very important to determine who and how you are going to pay for your wedding.  Will you pay for it yourself or will you have contributions from your family?  Next, set yourself a budget.  This should help you to stay on track.  If you can manage the expense of a wedding planner, you’ll fin that he or she will be worth it.  Most planners will find creative ways to stretch your budget so you don’t deplete immediately and has experience and relationships with local vendors.

So establish your budget.  Then prioritize what’s most important to you.  Spending a little extra on your photographer for fabulous photos may be more important to you then overly dramatic centerpieces. Most vendors will work within your budget so have an open conversation about what you’d like and what your budget allows for.

The next thing is to determine how many guests you’re inviting.  A few extra guests will cause unexpected costs to your bottom line. So have an honest conversation about who should truly be invite.  Do you really need to invite your 3rd and 4th cousins and don’t forget “plus ones”, as they add up and will ultimately affect your bottom line.

Happy Planning!

Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

contributions by CNBC and The Knot

 

Making Your Wedding Day Special

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Most little girls dream of a big wedding, with a large ball gown and extravagance.  So how do you achieve that and not have the same cookie cutter wedding you see so often?  By making it your own.  What do I mean by that?  Make sure you’re doing things that reflect your personalities.  Do you absolutely love tacos or cheeseburgers?  Then why not bring in a food truck for late night guests to enjoy?  After dinner you’re dancing, drinking and having a great time.  It works up an appetite, so why not enjoy a little snack off your local food truck before the end of the night?

If you’re thinking I don’t like food trucks, that’s okay, there’s all kinds of things that can do to make your day special.  Are you a pastry student at your local culinary college and love baking? Bring in your own take on a dessert bar…your colors, your flavors, your style.  Remember ladies, this is about you and your groom, so be sure he’s involved in these decisions too.  It can be so much fun!

How about a hot sundae ice cream bar with all the toppings! Maybe a Cappuccino bar to ensure everyone makes it home safely.   Whether you want a photo booth for great fun pics, like the new whoopi pies or donut towers, the old staple of a cupcake tower or simply love a brooch bouquet in lieu of real flowers…the skies the limit.  Don’t be afraid to fly, after all this is your day!

Happy Planning.

Mary Homer – Fairy Tale Weddings & Events