5 Tips To Being A Fabulous Maid of Honor

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Your best friend or sister is getting married and you were asked to be the Maid of Honor. You may be asking yourself what does that mean? That means you’re someone very special to the bride and she’s honored you with this special position. But what do you do?  Here’s my five top tips on being a Fabulous Maid of Honor:

1) Offer to do “it”, again and again and again.  Whether your bride is looking for a custom cake or topper, a florist for those special ordered flowers or looking for that perfect favor for her guests, help her from the start and run with it.  You don’t want the bride worrying about anything.  You need to be one step ahead of her and get things done.

2) Don’t be afraid to delegate the numerous things that will go on.  Have grandma, her godmother or a favorite family member help with the details of her bridal shower.  And don’t be afraid to let others share in the expense of these gatherings and items.  You certainly aren’t independently wealthy and everyone should contribute a little something toward the big day, whether it’s grandma, her godmother or favorite family members.

3) Say nice things about the groom or partner.  She is currently on cloud nine and is so happy. Tell her what a great choice she’s made and let her smile.  After all, you’re the Maid of Honor and your opinion counts.

4) ….and if you don’t care for the groom…..don’t share it. Hopefully before things have gotten so far as you being the Maid of Honor, you’ve shared your concerns.  The bride knows your concerns and doesn’t need to hear it over and over again.  Be supportive, have a listening ear and know when to just let it go.

5) Don’t forget to have some “me” time.  Pamper yourself prior to the wedding and unwind.  This is a job for all practical purposes and  you may not have alot of time for yourself. So make time to go to the salon, have a mani/pedicure or a massage and relax.  On the big day you’ll be busy, but be sure to enjoy yourself….after all you’re the Maid of Honor for a reason.

Happy planning!

Mary Homer-Fairy Tale Weddings & Events

http://www.fairytaleweddingsandeventsbymary.com

 

Is Wedding Planning More Stressful for Men?

We always hear about “Bridezillas” and how stressed they are in planning their wedding day.  They want everything just perfect, no mistakes and no screw ups. But what about the groom?  Do grooms become stressed out along the way as well?

According to recent surveys by Kalms, an herbal stress remedy company, the answer is a resounding yes.  16% of women found planning their wedding stressful, while 23% of men found it to be one of the most stressful life events. That’s one in every four  men.

What part of the planning process causes the most stress?  According to Kalms the top three stressors are the guests list, managing to stay within their established budget and making family and friends happy. This can be a huge task to achieve for any couple.

When men and women were asked what are the top stressors in their life, they included moving, having a child, getting married and securing a new job to name a few.  37% found moving to be the most stressful, which is followed closely by 34% regarding having a child.

The survey also addressed how wedding planning affects couples. While 40% indicated they were not stressed by planning their wedding, 30% were noted to be anxious, 23% lost sleep and 18% argued with each other.

So what’s a groom to do?  Finding something to help you de-stress is the key.  Play a game of basketball with your buddies, golf with family and friends, have a guys night out to help you regroup and come back to the table calm, cool and refreshed.  After all, women do this all the time, whether it’s a spa treatment, hitting the gym or simply meeting the girls for a glass of wine.  Everyone deals with stress in their own way.  At the end of the day, it’s about enjoying your big day with the love of your life. So don’t let the stress of planning that day dictate your planning style.  Take a deep breath and forge ahead. 

Wishing you happy planning!

Mary Homer

courtesy of the Huffington Post